If you have been following me from the beginning of this blog, or have just read my about post then I am sure you know that Eleanor’s biological father, Spencer, and I haven’t been together since I found out I was pregnant. During my pregnancy he came up with some incredible stories about how the baby couldn’t be his. Spencer saw Eleanor once when she was roughly 5 months old, at that time he told me he would like to be in her life, would pay child support, ect, ect. We never heard from him again.
We started the process of getting child support, custody agreements and visitations worked out in May 2013. He asked that a DNA test be done for him to be sure that she is his child. This was granted and the date was pushed back to July 3rd so we would have time to complete the DNA test.
On Wednesday July 3rd we went down to the court house, and were both given the results of the test, of course, they were positive with an in-arguable number of 99.999%. I finished up the papers saying that I wanted full custody, supervised visitations, any child support payments that seem fit and everything back owing in child support for the last year that he hasn’t payed. Spencer forgot to bring his paper work with him, so the date has now been pushed to August 21st. He is to bring all paper work necessary, including proof that he is paying child support for another child.
Thankfully, Spencer and I can get along just fine. He actually mentioned in court that he is sure next time will be the end of things because we agree on just about everything. He did mention that there was something about the visitations he wanted to talk about, which I am sure is the supervised part. I only want it that way because he is a complete stranger to her, and I have no idea how either one of them are going to react to each other, nor do I know if he will actually show up for his visits and I’d like to have it done in a place that will record these things in case the time comes where I need to use them. He also was not allowed to have un-supervised visitations with his son until his son was 3 years old, I do not know the reason for this exactly, but I’d like to be safe with my child’s life.
I am so excited for all of this to be over, although it has never taken an extraordinarily long time in court when we have gone, it has been a long process that I’ve been waiting for since she was born.